Miss Independent.

As M Continues to grow everyday, I can’t believe how independent she is becoming.

Her command of the English and Macedonian languages is surprising me the most as she can now decipher what she wants and does NOT want with just one or two simple words and some gestures. She is 15 1/2 months. Yea.

Meals are now becoming more challenging yet amusing. Up until now, she actually did not mind the fact that I was in complete charge of her feedings at meal times. Snacks are a little more simple and I let her go at it so she can practice self feeding without all the mess.

Lately, I just threw my hands up and let her feed herself even at meal times. I have been trying to keep her messiness to a minimum despite the pediatrician’s and many baby books’ advice that letting your kiddo get messy during meals is fine (what do they know!)

So this has been the routine: I would put her dinner away when she refuses and take her out for a stroll in hopes that maybe just maybe she will be hungry enough to let me feed her later. We would go to the park,where I would push her on the swing for a good hour. So here I was thinking, I am a genius! I GOT this!

After we would head back home, I would then attempt to feed her again, thinking she has forgotten that mommy wants to assist her with her turkey/apple with peas and will let her do so. Not. So. Much. I have tried this over and over again, hoping it will work.  She picks up things pretty fast this girl and learned what I was up to. Can’t fool her.

Finally one day, few days ago to be exact, I set the spoon down and let her have at it. I would step back, not too far from where she is sitting of course, and before you know it, she is feeding herself, sometimes with the spoon, sometimes with just her hands, but eating either way, the same meals that I have been struggling to feed her over the past few weeks. Now meals are easy peasy. Darn it, you baby books and pediatricians were right on.


Dinner by candelight. Well not really but might as well be. Let's just say the sun has already set.


And at one point, she even let me help her. (Yes!) 🙂 I tend to make things more complicated than they really are. I am learning that I should not underestimate her ability to move forward towards being more independent despite her age.

I guess I still view her as my baby. 🙁

So yes, she may be on her way to independence, but still, she needs her mama. And I will always know that she will need me. But sometimes, you just have to let kids be. You have to let them learn, explore, and see how the world works on their own terms.

And I have to accept that.



  1. Hahaha! Parenthood is all just trial and error, isn’t it? Your daughter is adorable!
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    • Awww thank you! It sure is! My husband claims she won’t eat her vegetables with him but with me it’s not a problem-I don’t get it?!

  2. It doesn’t matter how old they get. They’ll always be our babies! Mine are 9 & 6 and growing up way too fast. Don’t blink.

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  3. Awwwww she’s adorable!!! And so grown!! Aleksandra will not let us feed her, either. She eats, a lot, and I couldn’t be happier! hehe 🙂 I should show you what she did with the ajvar…
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    • Chi City Mom says:

      Thank you! They do grow fast don’t they?! Oh I would love to see that,now that’s a mess waiting to happen lol! My hubs tries to still feed her and still doesn’t get it, she wants to do it all by herself! She wants anything and everything that we adults are eating 🙂

  4. My son had things he wanted to do on his own and others he still wants me to do for me.
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